Okay so you reckon you clocked something that took me literally years to figure out and accept about myself? Do you want a medal? ‘When did you decide to be gay?’Īround the same time you made the conscious choice to be straight, I think! On a real though, so many queer people get this when they come out – and it’s not a compliment. ‘It’s fine you’re gay, but don’t hit on me’Īnd “do you fancy me?” – I promise you luv, you’re not that attractive. Okay so we all get men are annoying, but you wish you could have a girlfriend and risk getting hate crimed every time you walk down the street? Cool cool cool. If I had £1 for every time a straight girl said this to me, I’d be able to go live on a private island where I never had to see a heterosexual ever again. ‘I wish I was a lesbian! You’re so lucky you don’t have to deal with men’ Gay people come in all shapes and sizes, there’s no need to be patronising and tell us we don’t fit the stereotypical queer person.Īlso if you’re literally saying we don’t look gay as a good thing – that means you think it’s bad to look gay. ‘But you look straight/you don’t look gay!’Ī lot of masculine queer men and feminine queer women get this and even though it’s almost always intended as a compliment, it doesn’t feel like one to us. I hate to break it to you, but we’re both the same gender – that’s kind of the whole point. Sweetheart just because I am gay, it doesn’t mean I double as the cast of Queer Eye. ‘Omg you have to help me decide what to wear’ It’s a selfish thing to say, it’s an insult with casual homophobia thrown in there. Why can’t I be attractive and gay? Sorry I didn’t realise I existed literally just for you to try and get with. This really isn’t the compliment you think it is – it’s just prejudice. Not every queer person is a homosexual dictionary. They’re literally slurs, and we use some of them very loosely than their original meanings.
#YOU SAY YOUR STRAIGHT BUT YOU ARE GAY MEME FREE#
Just because some queer people choose to use these words when referring to themselves, again – it’s not a free pass for you to say it. And whilst we’re at it, don’t use ‘dyke, poof, fag or twink’ either
Yes many LGBTQ+ people have reclaimed the word – but you can’t say it if you’re not gay, hun. Take our short, confidential homophobia on campus survey now and help us uncover the scale of the problem at unis.
#YOU SAY YOUR STRAIGHT BUT YOU ARE GAY MEME FULL#
The only thing bi people “fully” are, is fully bi.Īs part of The Tab’s Pride series, we want to uncover the full extent of discrimination at unis, based on someone’s sexuality or gender identity. I can’t quite believe we still need to explain this, but if you’re using “gay” in a negative way when what you really mean is “that’s so annoying/stupid/lame”, you’re literally just being homophobic. Sorry, I didn’t realise we were still in primary school – not that it was acceptable to say this then, either. Here are 41 homophobic things straight people say to us every single day: ‘That’s so gay’
If you’re really an ally, pay attention when we ask you not to say these things actually listen and understand what we’re explaining to you and please, please, just stop saying all of them. LGBTQ+ people get these casually homophobic questions and comments from straight people every single day, and we’re sick and tired of it.įrom playground stuff loads of people still seem to have not grown out of, like “no homo” and “that’s so gay”, to calling us your “gay best friend”, questioning if our sexuality is legitimate, or asking in-depth questions about our sex lives. Even if you don’t think you are, or if you don’t mean to be, I guarantee that on a regular basis you say homophobic things you don’t even realise are actually incredibly rude and harmful.